Saturday, July 27, 2019

"The Price of Truth," Book Discussion, Part III

1) "The Price of Truth," Part III, the trafficking, mindfucking, silencing, and subduing of Genendy the victim, and her isolation from every other victim, and the gigantic injustice of this conspiracy.
3) What happened to Genendy was bad enough - rape and molestation by her father and grandfather - without the trafficking element.

But the fact of the matter is that her family sold her to the yeshiva boys.
4) "The bad girl, the one who Tatty hurts at night, is sometimes left in there with the bochurim."

(In there - in the dorms; "bochurim" - yeshiva boys who live away from home, high school age.)

- "The Price of Truth," Genendy, Location 510
5) "They give Tatty money, and she has to do what they say." - "The Price of Truth," Genendy, Location 510

This is straight up child sex trafficking. 
7) "The law also prohibits and punishes attempts and conspiracies relating to human trafficking. It orders the forfeit of any property used in violation of the law as well as any proceeds from the act."
8) "The law includes clauses for the mandatory payment of restitution to the victim for the full amount of their losses, as determined by the court."
9) Genendy's father takes her to a local hotel to rape her, which leads her to try to drown herself in the pool. 

She is grateful to her father when he rescues her from the suicide attempt his vicious crimes caused.
10) Genendy is encouraged to live in two realities, the reality of the abuse and the reality of the ultra-Orthodox life where talk of abuse is forbidden. Therefore she concludes that the abuse must be "a bad dream."
11) Genendy the religious child is not supposed to be near the yeshiva boys. Genendy the child trafficking victim is raped repeatedly such that she dissociates and cannot recall the sodomy, or can only witness them from a distance, and see the child crying.
12) The torture involves religion in that the conscious child is invited to situations that should be completely innocent, and then they turn into rape. Father is teacher, trafficker, rapist.
13) The conscious child blames herself, needs her father, and cannot speak of any of this to the mother, because it's "her fault" for being "bad."
13) The child's life revolves around "not getting into trouble" for being "bad" because this is the mentality of the fundamentalist community and in particular there are many, many, many prohibitions around sex.
14) It should be mentioned that Genendy describes herself as being about 46 years old (born 1973), and having 11 siblings, who lived in close quarters, in or about New York City (Lakewood, NJ area; Boro Park, Brooklyn, NY).
15) Genendy is upset when she starts going through puberty; it makes her anxious; she decides she would rather be a boy - maybe she is a boy. 

This seems like an avenue for gender researchers - the link between abuse and gender identity disorders.
16) The repressed memories come up at bedtime. Remember until now she is self-censoring.
17) The 13-14 year old Genendy becomes conscious that she is a slave to her parents and she will be a slave to her husband. This is dogma, religious dogma in her world.

She witnesses her uncle brutally slapping her young cousin - "normal" physical abuse.
18) She's getting older and that means she has to care for children not her own (still a slave) in an overcrowded apartment with no physical or emotional boundaries.
19) The mind games are pervasive; "apologize because she would get hit because you cried"; mom gets married to escape constant physical violence from dad; mom's husband rapes child and either her father or her husband pimps child out; mom pretends to see nothing.
20) You can see the dynamics of the child sex trafficking are not overt. It's not like someone "decided" to do this. It's happening though.
21) Genendy's uncle is molesting his son.
22) Genendy is the only one the victim tells, and she is drawn into the situation, asked to tape the child. 

Her father knows well that he raped her, but this goes unsaid, and it's a psychotic situation, as she is also caring for a bipolar aunt.
23) Genendy has memories of the yeshiva boys raping her and molesting her younger brother, who is a baby, and laughing as they do it. She is wracked by guilt and shame and sorrow.
24) The mother colluded with the abuse until Genendy turned seven, because it was determined in some form or fashioned that Jewish law at that point kicked in.

We see here the twisting of religion again, a rationalization, that young children somehow don't count.
25) Mom tortures Genendy in small ways. She does not allow the child to get proper eyeglasses because what does she need to see?

She takes away the radio.

Her books.

Genendy is a prisoner.
26) Genendy's father finds out that she wants to leave home and locks up her passport.
27) She manages to get it back and leave anyway, running to Israel, but somehow the family lures her back, because the family is all she knows.
28) Her father intimates that the reason she wanted to leave is that she's really a lesbian.

Imagine the level of mental torture this man is inflicting on the girl.
29) Genendy eventually goes to a therapist, but the therapist is loyal to her father and violates clinical boundaries; the sessions were really about helping him, not Genendy.
30) Meanwhile Genendy's father is confiding in her as though she were an intimate female friend, and when she tells him to stop he is genuinely "confused".

"Isn't communication a two-way street?" he asks.

NO! Sicko
31) At some point Genendy finds the box with her baby pictures and starts to open it, but her parents forbid her from opening the box.

The box is the abuse, she cannot be permitted to access those memories.
32) The therapist, who is colluding with the father, suggests to Genendy that she is repressing memories of sexual abuse, and directs those memories to her uncle. Genendy tells her father about this, and he says yes, that sounds about right-except he knows that he is one of them.
33) The father tells Genendy to get married it will solve things
34) Genendy is trying to hold it together but Mom is tormented and fears that Genendy will become a molester. So when Genendy's sister comes to her for comfort, Mom warns her away, because the child isn't dressed.

Think about the monstrousness of this all.
35) The scene with mom makes Genendy realize that mom knew all along, and this creates havoc in her mind as the memories rush in.
36) The therapist who is supporting dad, not Genendy, wants to "fix" Genendy and tells her to come clean to mom at least so that she can start to heal. She uses mumbo jumbo on Genendy, saying that she is "delaying gratification" by not talking.
37) Really, what is going on is that the therapist is a predator also, trying to plumb Genendy's mind to see how much trouble the parents are in.
38) The father meanwhile schemes to get Genendy in to see a well-known rabbi for support. She tells him she was abused and he says he believes her. She names her grandfather, an elite rabbi, and the immediate reaction is: 

"It didn't happen."

Conspiracy of silence.
39) The therapist insists on meeting Genendy's parents without her there; Genendy insists on being there; and the therapist says there are "boundary issues" and drops her as a client.
40) Genendy tries to tell her sister, who goes to Dad, who says that she is headed down a "dangerous path" because he is the only one who "really" loves her.
41) Genendy survives on the kindness of kind strangers. A Jewish woman from the community. And later, the kindness of fellow patients at a mental hospital.
42) But while she still has her teaching job, at the ultra-Orthodox preschool, she confides in her boss who flatly denies that anything physical could have happened, although the emotional aspect (which would not count against her virginity) was definitely real.

Gas Lighting
43) In a completely surreal scene, Genendy, whose community has utterly pimped out and betrayed her, turns to a rabbi to ask if she is "allowed" to marry a priest if her father RAPED her, and the rabbi asks only if she was less than three years old at the time.

44) The truth is that Genendy is not organically mentally ill. But she is made ill by those around her, who violate her in the worst possible way, and then completely deny the reality.
45) Genendy, the broken and tortured slave in this sharia-like culture, is the culpable party because she broke the rule about saying mean things.
46) What Genendy cannot see, in her determination to make the guilty parties responsible, is that these men all need to go to jail.

She was a prisoner, she was pimped out, she was violated, she was tortured, she was enslaved, she was made sick.

They knew, they colluded.
47) Genendy is married now, but she has been ostracized by her family of origin, and her attackers roam free.

Part IV of this thread (not today, it's too much) will talk about the parallels between her experience and that of others.
48) It will talk about how serial sexual predators roam the halls of yeshivas, day care centers, Israeli seminaries and outreach centers, synagogues, and overnight schools, and of course families. 

How they do it as a group.

And what is needed to stop them.

By Dr. Dannielle Blumenthal. All opinions are the author's own. Public domain.