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Recently somebody asked me why I spend so much time publicizing issues like workplace bullying, abuse, human trafficking, feminism, abuses in organized religion, and the importance of outing and prosecuting child molesters.
I understood the subtext of the question: "You must have been a victim, right?" As if nobody in their right mind would care about this type of thing unless they had been personally tortured.
The truth is not that dramatic, and yet it is. I simply realized one day that G-d gave me a voice and I am supposed to use it to try and speak for those who can't. I love this video of Daughtry's song "What About Now" - it captures the idea completely:
It is true that people who take a stand can become victims themselves. Remember Judy Blume's classic young adult book, Blubber?
"Though the entire class ostracizes Linda ("Blubber"), Wendy and her best friend and sidekick Caroline are Linda's chief tormentors and bully her both physically...and psychologically.....The older I get the more I see that there are two kinds of people in the world. Some are willing to take a stand - even if quietly and behind the scenes. Others are not.
"(Until) Jill (another student in the class), frustrated with herself for so readily following Wendy's lead, finally stands up to Wendy....Wendy, furious that Jill has dared to question her authority, threatens to make Jill "sorry [she was] ever born".
"Jill comes to school the next morning to find that Wendy has made good on her threat and turned the entire class against her....Jill's tormentors include Linda, who is more than willing to bully one of her former harassers."
Generally the reasons for silence fall into one of 10 categories:
1. "I don't want them coming after me." (Refer to above.)
2. "Not my problem."
3. "People will think that I was a victim."
4. "What can I possibly do to help?"
5. "Look around you - that stuff seems a little exaggerated."
6. "Can't you see those people are crazy?"
7. "It's sad, but I have bigger things to worry about."
8. "That's what therapists are for - it's not really something you demonstrate about."
9. "If it didn't happen to me, why should I care?"
10. "Honestly, it's just depressing."
If you are on the fence, think about it from the perspective of your death. How do you want to remember your life?
I think about it this way: How many years, months or days do I have left before G-d forbid something happens, and I have to spend so much time at the doctor's office that I can't do anything for anyone anymore?
I'm inspired by the folks who stood up for the victims at last week's Jewish protest (in New York) to protect children from child abuse.
If you have time, I highly recommend reading what they had to put up with, because it really stirred me up to stand up for the victims even more:
Overheard at the Asifa Protest: Quotes, Moments, & Vignettes - By Shulem Deen | Unpious.com