Dr. Dannielle Blumenthal

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Thursday, November 16, 2017

Briefly: We wait for disaster before acting.

A friend of mine recently posted on Facebook that she lost one of her friends to domestic violence. At which point many other people commented in sympathy, and at least one person said she had seen the exact same thing occur.

Did those women have to die?

Workplace violence, or violence at school. Very troubled people. Sometimes people say, "I was afraid of that person."

Why do things have to get so bad, when preventive action could save lives?

I think about problems on the job, with projects that are late or over budget or simply don't work out, because nobody thought the requirements through properly, or they didn't make sure that the necessary resources were there beforehand.

Why do people have to waste their time?

It's never good to waste money. But especially in challenging economic times, why does money have to be squandered?

Mental health may seem unrelated to a cold dry subject like project management, but in reality the two are one and the same:
  • If you ignore the emotional needs of a person, on the assumption that "they can take care of themselves," it is only a matter of time before they shrivel up and cease functioning. (That's why it's so important, when you see another individual, to say this, and mean it: "Hello, how's your day?")
  • Similarly, if you ignore the process needs of a project, on the assumption that it will "just happen" the way it's supposed to, you can be sure that the entire thing will become a costly, tangled, messed-up mess with everybody running from the fire--of course, pointing fingers as they run.
The key to avoiding disasters, of any kind, is a prevention mindset.

What needs to happen in order for someone to be happy, healthy and engaged -- at work or at home?

What needs to happen in order for work to be carried out efficiently, sensibly, and with the highest quality result for the customer?

You know the drill--None of this is rocket science.

A little bit of attention, a little bit of care, can prevent so much unnecessary loss down the road.

All opinions my own. Public domain. Photo by TheDigitalArtist (CC0 Creative Commons).

Sunday, November 12, 2017

I am especially concerned that the mainstream media and the alternative media continue to present us with two totally different narratives that have begun to verge on totally different realities.
This presentation (download from Slideshare) is my attempt to organize the contents of a spreadsheet posted to GoogleDocs which presents one such alternative narrative. The source is known as “Q Anon.” See these links: Full Text | Smartsheet.| Link to Links.

Why present unverified information? Because we need to analyze it, criticize it, and bring it into the mainstream conversation about what is happening in our world. 

We are one Nation under God. May we unify for the good. God have mercy on us all.

Disclaimer — Read Me First: Compiled, reorganized, edited and sourced to the spreadsheet by Dr. Dannielle Blumenthal, independently and not on behalf of any entity or organization, from a single anonymous source, as a service to the public. Not a government document. Needs verification. Questions without answers have been omitted. Dr. Blumenthal was not asked to develop or post this document by anyone. Dr. Blumenthal does not know who wrote this. More than one person appears to have contribute to the document as some additional sources are credited. These sources are anonymous and their ”usernames” are omitted. Source: ”Q Questions and Answers” collected questions and answers, accessed 11/10/2017, 9:11 a.m. and again on 11/11/2017 at 9:24 a.m. No copyright is asserted by Dr. Blumenthal over this material. CC0 Creative Commons photo via Pixabay.

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

Late at night when I think about how I am, I recognize the signs and symptoms.

  • There is a sense of doom and foreboding.
  • A raw, sarcastic humor. It bites.
  • A harsh view of the world, combined with an odd kind of hope.
  • Admiration for heroes. A view of heroes as individual, suffering crusaders.
  • Deep emotion hidden behind a facade of indifference--or humor.
  • Vigilance about "religious" sexual predators.
  • Being "turned off" religiously, and yet somehow determined to talk about it.
  • Pervasive disbelief in institutions and systems, and yet the desire to hold them accountable and make them better--possibly.
  • Total disdain for hypocrites. 
  • Total disregard for authority that rests solely on formal authority.
  • Looking for beacons of light in the crowd. A sign that others are real. 

I believe I am part of a social cohort that thinks a certain way because of the times we lived in, and because of the things we have seen, and in many cases tragically experienced.

There is this term "OTD," which stands for "Off the Derech," meaning people who rejected religion, as if there is something wrong with them.

But I see the label OTD as a badge of suffering, suffering largely inflicted by the religious community itself,  and it is for this reason that the label really disgusts me.

If you were not there, I can't explain it to you adequately.

If you were not there, you did not go to the NCSY kumsitz, where we all sang songs of glory to God, hung out and ate pizza, and talked like kids do.

It was only decades later that I learned a noted NCSY rabbi and educator descended upon innocent kids, talking the spiritual talk in public while taking liberties that no adult should take with a child.

And he was only one of hundreds.

I look back on those times and remember them as somehow better, and more innocent.

And yet the crimes that were perpetrated are so heinous.

So hidden.

Before there was Jewish Community Watch, there was a book called Shonda, and an editor who supported victims named Gary Rosenblatt, and a researcher named Shmarya Rosenberg, whose blog Failed Messiah was sold but still available online, and The Awareness Center, with more than 500 names on a registry of "alleged and convicted offenders."

Every single person who stood up to support victim of religious abusers is a hero. And many of them were bullied mercilessly by the community, stigmatized and blamed for having the gall to speak up.

Amid all the talk about which version of religion is superior--Ashkenazi or Sephardic, Chasidish or Litvak, Charedi or Yeshivish or Modern Orthodox, Orthodox or Reconstructionist or Conservative or Reform--I have to ask this question.

Why don't we just go after the people who spend their lives groping kids? Prosecute them and put them in jail. Preferably for life.

The crime of child sexual abuse is more than just physical or emotional. It is the theft of a human soul.

I am grateful to HaShem every single day that I escaped the sexual and emotional torture that so many of my peers experienced, that they bore in tortured silence for so long.

And I pray, too, that He exacts a full measure of justice on behalf of them. That all of the perpetrators pay.

To make the victims whole again, to restore their innocence and capacity to have faith.

I am gratified to see that the Jewish religious community today is making strides--great strides--to recover from the sins of the past. Sins that rest on the shoulders of its leaders, and for which they should rightfully beg the victims for forgiveness.

Copyright 2017 by Dr. Dannielle Blumenthal. All opinions are Dr. Blumenthal's own. All rights reserved. Photo by Free-Photos via Pixabay (CC0 Creative Commons)